Since 2000, all parents in Germany have had to raise their children without violence.
Non-violent parenting - what does that mean?
Non-violent parenting means that parents and adults do not use violence to raise children or young people. Violence can take many forms. There is:
- Physical violence: For example, when parents hit or kick children.
- Mental violence: When parents constantly insult and abuse children or tell them they are not worth anything.
- Sexual violence: When adults force children to perform sexual acts or touch them even though they don't want to.
- Neglect: When parents do not take care of children, for example not giving them food or leaving them alone.
- Witnessing domestic violence: When children see or hear adults in the family hitting or threatening each other.
All these forms of violence are bad for children and young people. They can make them afraid, sad or even ill.
Why is it sometimes difficult between parents and teenagers during puberty?
Conflicts often arise during puberty because teenagers want to become more independent, while parents set rules and boundaries. These different expectations lead to arguments, for example about when to come home or how much time to spend with friends, the use of cell phones or homework. It is important that both sides listen and try to understand the other's point of view. Solutions can include making clear agreements, finding compromises and talking to each other respectfully. This makes it easier to resolve conflicts and live together.
What obligations do young people have?
Even if young people want more freedom, they still have obligations, for example:
They have to go to school regularly to learn something.
They should help around the house, for example with tidying up or doing the dishes.
These duties help to ensure that life together works well.
Summary:
Non-violent parenting means that parents do not use violence. They take good care of their children and respect them. Even if it is sometimes difficult during puberty, parents and young people should talk to each other and respect each other. That way, everyone can live well together.
Getting help - if you're not feeling well
Sometimes teenagers feel bad or have problems. Then it is important to get help. You can talk to adults you trust. This could be your parents or relatives. Teachers or school social workers at school or your friends can also listen to you. If you want, you can also contact the youth welfare office. There are people there who can help and support you. You are not alone - there is always someone who wants to help you.
